Finding Your Service Sweet Spot: Discovering How YOU Are Called to Give Back | Mindset Monday
Update: 2025-11-10
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Join host Nyomi Banks on The Season of Self-Love Podcast for a Mindset Monday exploring how to discover your unique calling to serve. Stop trying to serve in ways that drain you and find the intersection where your gifts meet the world's needs—your service sweet spot.
In This Episode:
• The 5 T's of service: Time, Talent, Treasure, Testimony, and Touch
• Why service shouldn't feel like obligation or burden
• How to identify your natural gifts (even the ones you overlook)
• The difference between alignment and obligation
• Why small acts create big impacts
• Practical exercises to discover your service sweet spot this week
The 5 Forms of Service:
You don't have to do all 5. Pay attention to which 1-2 make your spirit say "YES, that's me!"
Three Questions to Identify Your Gifts:
1. What do you do effortlessly that others struggle with? Nyomi's example: Creating safe space for hard conversations, sitting with pain without fixing it. From childhood, people always stopped her for advice (called her "the Black Dear Abby").
2. What activities make you lose track of time? Your gifts are connected to your joy. Nyomi's example: Deep conversations for hours feel like 20 minutes; working on podcast content and forgetting to eat
3. What do people constantly ask you for help with? These aren't random requests—they're mirrors reflecting your gifts. What are YOU the go-to person for?
Alignment vs. Obligation:
Critical Truth: If service constantly drains you, it's NOT your calling.
Said yes to everything early in her journey. Result: Burnt out, exhausted, resentful. Started asking before saying yes: "Is this aligned with my gifts? Does this energize me?" Her service became MORE powerful when she gave from alignment, not obligation.
Example: The Fashion Show
A friend asked Nyomi to help coordinate a fashion show. She knew it wasn't aligned but said yes out of obligation. Nothing worked. She got ill. Days later, her friend texted: "Spiritual guidance told me I'm not supposed to do this." God/the universe had to say no FOR her.
The Power of Small Acts:
You don't need a nonprofit, platform, or impressive-looking service. Sometimes the most powerful service is quiet and small:
Practical Exercise for This Week:
Step 1: List 5 things you're naturally good at (not trained skills—natural gifts)
Step 2: Which bring you joy when you share them? Circle those—they're your clues.
Step 3: Take ONE aligned action this week that flows from your gifts. Notice: Does it energize or deplete you?
Affirmation:
"My gifts are unique and needed. I don't have to serve like anyone else. I serve like me. I release the pressure to do it all and embrace the freedom to do what I am called to do. Small acts with great love create big change."
Perfect for listeners interested in:
Finding your unique purpose, serving without burnout, identifying natural gifts, setting boundaries, turning pain into purpose, creating ripple effects.
November Theme: Giving Back: The Power of Service and Community (Week 2)
Subscribe at theseasonofselflovepodcast.com or AskNyomi.com
#ServiceSweetSpot #FindingYourCalling #GivingBack #Alignment #SelfLove #Purpose #SeasonOfSelfLove
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support.
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast
visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com for resources and our downloadable workbook.
Until Monday – keep choosing YOU.
This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."
In This Episode:
• The 5 T's of service: Time, Talent, Treasure, Testimony, and Touch
• Why service shouldn't feel like obligation or burden
• How to identify your natural gifts (even the ones you overlook)
• The difference between alignment and obligation
• Why small acts create big impacts
• Practical exercises to discover your service sweet spot this week
The 5 Forms of Service:
- Time - Showing up, being present, volunteering hours
- Talent - Using your specific skills (podcasting, writing, design, teaching, organizing)
- Treasure - Financial support, donations, supporting small businesses
- Testimony - Sharing your story so others don't feel alone
- Touch - Physical presence, hugs, sitting in silence, energy healing
You don't have to do all 5. Pay attention to which 1-2 make your spirit say "YES, that's me!"
Three Questions to Identify Your Gifts:
1. What do you do effortlessly that others struggle with? Nyomi's example: Creating safe space for hard conversations, sitting with pain without fixing it. From childhood, people always stopped her for advice (called her "the Black Dear Abby").
2. What activities make you lose track of time? Your gifts are connected to your joy. Nyomi's example: Deep conversations for hours feel like 20 minutes; working on podcast content and forgetting to eat
3. What do people constantly ask you for help with? These aren't random requests—they're mirrors reflecting your gifts. What are YOU the go-to person for?
Alignment vs. Obligation:
Critical Truth: If service constantly drains you, it's NOT your calling.
- Service shouldn't feel like a burden
- Healthy service flows from your gifts and energizes you
- Saying no to some forms of service isn't selfish—it's stewardship of your gifts
Said yes to everything early in her journey. Result: Burnt out, exhausted, resentful. Started asking before saying yes: "Is this aligned with my gifts? Does this energize me?" Her service became MORE powerful when she gave from alignment, not obligation.
Example: The Fashion Show
A friend asked Nyomi to help coordinate a fashion show. She knew it wasn't aligned but said yes out of obligation. Nothing worked. She got ill. Days later, her friend texted: "Spiritual guidance told me I'm not supposed to do this." God/the universe had to say no FOR her.
The Power of Small Acts:
You don't need a nonprofit, platform, or impressive-looking service. Sometimes the most powerful service is quiet and small:
- Daily TikTok encouragement notes (5-10 minutes)
- Kind word to a tired cashier
- Texting "thinking about you today"
- The way you raise your children (breaking generational curses)
- Modeling self-love so others learn they can love themselves too
Practical Exercise for This Week:
Step 1: List 5 things you're naturally good at (not trained skills—natural gifts)
Step 2: Which bring you joy when you share them? Circle those—they're your clues.
Step 3: Take ONE aligned action this week that flows from your gifts. Notice: Does it energize or deplete you?
Affirmation:
"My gifts are unique and needed. I don't have to serve like anyone else. I serve like me. I release the pressure to do it all and embrace the freedom to do what I am called to do. Small acts with great love create big change."
Perfect for listeners interested in:
Finding your unique purpose, serving without burnout, identifying natural gifts, setting boundaries, turning pain into purpose, creating ripple effects.
November Theme: Giving Back: The Power of Service and Community (Week 2)
Subscribe at theseasonofselflovepodcast.com or AskNyomi.com
#ServiceSweetSpot #FindingYourCalling #GivingBack #Alignment #SelfLove #Purpose #SeasonOfSelfLove
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support.
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast
visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com for resources and our downloadable workbook.
Until Monday – keep choosing YOU.
This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."
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